This weekend, an altercation among friends reminded me about the ego’s enslavement of people’s lives. True happiness comes when you are able to deny the ego and embrace your true self. This post will highlight lessons from the masters to help you let it go and discover peace…
“If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It’s very important to be aware of them every time they come up.” – Deepak Chopra
I remember reading statements like this and thinking that it was a load of poetic rhetoric. Then, one day I read Wayne Dyer’s, “Seven Steps For Overcoming The Ego’s Hold On You.” I immediately saw how these seven thought processes were obstacles in my life. I wrote Dyer’s steps in large print and kept the paper visible to remind me of the work needed to be done.
The Abbreviated Version with quotes…
1. Stop being offended. That which offends you only weakens you. If you are looking for occasions to be offended, you will find them at every turn.
”’Anger and Intolerance are the twin enemies of correct understanding” – Mahatma Gandhi)
2. Let go of the need to win. You are not your winnings or your victories. You may enjoy competing and have fun in a world where winning is everything but you don’t have to be there in your thoughts. There are no losers in a world where we all share the same energy.
“The foundation of the Buddha’s teachings lies in compassion, and the reason for practicing the teachings is to wipe out the persistence of ego, the number-one enemy of compassion.” – Dalai Lama
3. Let go of your need to be right. The creative spirit is kind, loving and receptive; and free of anger and resentment. Letting go of your need to be right in your discussions and relationships is like saying to your ego, “I’m not a slave to you. I want to embrace kindness, and I reject your need to be right”
4. Let go of your need to be superior. True nobility is about being better than you used to be. Stay focused on your own growth. We all emanate from the same creative force. We all have a mission to realize our intended essence; all that we need to fulfill our destiny is available to us.
“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him, you will see yourself. As you treat him, you will treat yourself. As you think of him, you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself.” – Marianne Williamson
“So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.” – Alan Watts
5. Let go of your need to have more. No matter how much you achieve or acquire, your ego will insist that it’s never enough…… Yet, in reality, you have already arrived and how you choose to use this present moment in your life is up to you. Ironically, when you stop needing more, more of what you desire seems to arrive in your life.
“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”
― Eckhart Tolle
6. Let go of identifying yourself on the basis of your achievements. All emanates from Source. You and that Source are one. Notice it all and be grateful for the abilities that you’ve accumulated. But give all of the credit to the power of intention, which brought you into existence and which you are a materialized part of.
“The Self says ‘I AM’–as in the very grand sayings of Christ, especially in the Gospel of John, in which he says in the state of onenenss with Yahweh (which in Hebrew means ‘I AM’), I AM is the way and the truth and the life–but the ego says ‘I am this’ or ‘I am that,’ thus attaching itself only to a small portion of the Vastness. (62)”
― Ravi Ravindra
7. Let go of your reputation. Connecting to intention means listening to your heart and conducting yourself based on what your inner voice tells you is your purpose here. There’s nothing you can’t do unless you disconnect from the power source and become convinced that your purpose here is to convince others how masterful and superior you are and spend your energy attempting to win a giant reputation among other egos. Stay on purpose detached from outcome and take responsibility for what does reside in you: your character.
Some of these will be more challenging for you than others. For me, the most challenging one is the need to have more. What does that say about ambition? Hmmm…
“The possibility of stepping into a higher plane is quite real for everyone. It requires no force or effort or sacrifice. It involves little more than changing our ideas about what is normal.” – Deepak Chopra
Seven Steps for Overcoming Ego’s Hold on You